We’ve been taught to treat sex like a secret. From awkward school health classes to hushed conversations (or worse, no conversations) at home, the message has been clear: Keep it to yourself. And so, we do. We bury our fantasies, swallow our desires, and pretend we’re satisfied when we’re aching for more.

Why is this conversation so important? Because silence breeds ignorance, and ignorance perpetuates shame.

When we suppress our desires, we not only deny ourselves the opportunity to experience pleasure and intimacy in its fullest form, but we also risk damaging our relationships with ourselves and with others.

By breaking the silence, we open the door to honest communication, mutual understanding, and a more authentic connection with our partners.